Gravestone: “He worked a lot”

'Thanks for all your hard work.'

 

I have never seen a grave stone that said “He worked a lot”

I’ve looked, too!  I searched google for an image using those words and other variations and found nothing. Not even as a joke, I guess it’s not funny.

I hear stories all the time about people that retire and start to lose their ability to live life due to illness or medical conditions. We hear it all that time! It’s a reminder that we need to live life as we age, not when we age.

I own a business. As soon as I found people that can work for me without me standing over them I started taking weekends off to be with my family. It took almost 2 years but it was my goal. There are weekends I might have to work here and there but the gist of it is, I take time for what is important to me.

I realize not everyone can just take weekends off. But, we can find what’s important to us, your calling in life, and do it. If working is more important to you then do it. If spending quality time with your family is, then do it. If walking your dog is, then do it! It’s about the everyday life and what you make of it. It’s not about working your ass off every day so you can retire, you may not even make it to retirement.  Show up for your life!

As we age, different things become more important to us. Each era of our lives creates a different story. For example, in my 20’s it was about relationships and getting married, in my 30’s children and family, my 40’s is family, school and work. I try hard to balance it all. But, for me throughout my life family has always been important to me.

I don’t get to see my brothers much since Dad passed away. Monday, my younger brother came by my shop with dinner. He brought Columbian Empanadas from a place he seen me check in on Facebook at. He knew I liked it and wanted to try it himself. I was beside the moon that he wanted to spend that time with me and made the time to come see me. I need to initiate those meet ups more myself.

When a friend asks me out to lunch, when my son tells me he loves me without me saying it first, when a neighbor asks us to dinner, the random text just asking how I am, a sincere display of love, feeling needed and loved…those are the things that are important to me, today.

What is the most important thing in your life right now?

via Daily Prompt: Calling

Social media addict?

Yesterday, I made the decision to remove myself from social media.

Yes, I did….

I deactivated my Facebook account and deleted my Snapchat.

I didn’t have an Instagram or twitter.

However, I do have accounts in all of these for my business.

On a personal level, I am not longer connected to social media.

AND I FEEL FABULOUS!!!

At first, I thought this was going to be hard. How will I survive without seeing everyone’s lives happening before me? How will I make it through a day without seeing how everyone’s first day of school was or how that girl in Bloomington is doing with the new baby. How will I make it without knowing how Ed the coffee guy managed to make it through the Park Ridge Farmers Market or how Bob from California is enjoying his new puppy?

This is how I did it. I replaced that time scrolling through social media with ME time. I looked at my son while I was talking to him. I asked him questions instead of nodding yes while responding to a post. I cleaned the oven, which was pretty cool! I did an amazing amount of marketing on milkshakes for my business and arrived into work early without being tired. While at work I read a book during the slow times and did a little extra cleaning.

It all seems so normal but for me it isn’t normal. I spent way too much time on social media. Doing all these extra things personally and professional has me feeling empowered and ready to tackle some more tasks. That’s crazy!!!!!

Last night I went to bed earlier then I usually do and actually went to sleep!  Like within 15 minutes. That’s unheard of!

This morning I woke up before the alarm and felt great.

I am pretty sure I was addicted to social media. Without it I get a little itchy, I want to just take a quick peek. I pick up my phone to click the big F (that’s F for Facebook) and for a second panic that it isn’t there. But, it’s getting easier and I am looking less.

Another reason I quit social media. It was helping me to build up resentments. I spend a lot of time with my son at home because autism doesn’t let us enjoy day trips out like most families. In addition, his chronic lung disease and oxygen requirements make it hard to just hop on out the door. Watching these assumable normal families enjoy the last few days of summer vacation was making me sad, not happy. Watching stranger’s lives that have no part of my daily life was making me resent them.

Without those visuals I can focus on the gratitude. The beautiful smile and hardy laugh my son enjoys at home. Our everyday hot dog lunches and “black popcorn” with water balloons by the dozen. The chronicles of the Boss (our puppy boxer) and homemade meals (not instagramed or facebooked) by my super BFF hubby! The best part are the text messages from the people IN my life with pictures of their kids first day at school, letting me know they are traveling for a sick family member or just asking to meet for lunch or coffee.  The important stuff!